Selwyn continues his discussion on friendship – his seventh and final pillar of wisdom.
His topic, today, is – how do we go about making friends? Selwyn suggest that the first step is: to be friendly; and the second step is: allow time for friendships to develop.
To be friendly, as Selwyn implies – is to be interested in other people and not to be totally self-absorbed in your own interests. How many people do you know, who spend most of a conversation telling you about their activities – never once pausing, to ask about the important events of your life. Except, perhaps to use your responses, as a launching pad into yet another chapter of their critical, on-going, life experiences.
Yet, I liked Selwyn’s conclusion; “Some relationships you have with people may never develop into close friendships. Don’t be upset about that. If you are open and friendly then God will guide you and show you where deep friendships are to be developed.”
I’ll repeat what I said yesterday: if you really would like to have more friends, to share the ‘ups and downs of life’ – then first, pray about it – ask Jesus to bring you into contact with people who will honestly walk with you on this journey – and, share the joy and burden of carrying your cross, as you follow in the footsteps of Christ.
The first step – is always prayer – nothing can be achieved (in a spiritual sense) without first talking it over with Jesus.
Steps to friendship
Selwyn continues his discussion on friendship – his seventh and final pillar of wisdom.
His topic, today, is – how do we go about making friends? Selwyn suggest that the first step is: to be friendly; and the second step is: allow time for friendships to develop.
To be friendly, as Selwyn implies – is to be interested in other people and not to be totally self-absorbed in your own interests. How many people do you know, who spend most of a conversation telling you about their activities – never once pausing, to ask about the important events of your life. Except, perhaps to use your responses, as a launching pad into yet another chapter of their critical, on-going, life experiences.
Yet, I liked Selwyn’s conclusion; “Some relationships you have with people may never develop into close friendships. Don’t be upset about that. If you are open and friendly then God will guide you and show you where deep friendships are to be developed.”
I’ll repeat what I said yesterday: if you really would like to have more friends, to share the ‘ups and downs of life’ – then first, pray about it – ask Jesus to bring you into contact with people who will honestly walk with you on this journey – and, share the joy and burden of carrying your cross, as you follow in the footsteps of Christ.
The first step – is always prayer – nothing can be achieved (in a spiritual sense) without first talking it over with Jesus.